The point of telling that story isn't to make you feel sorry for this girl. Make no mistake about it, I disliked this student. Still do actually. We don't say hi or smile in the halls. I'm just saying her behavior didn't come from nowhere and it made sense.
After trying to talk with her, give her choices, and enforce rules, I was still making very little progress with this girl.
Where's the positive? This girl got so out of hand one day that the class united to correct her behavior. "Shut the F**K up! All he wants is to help you learn. This is interesting. When you act like this, it only hurts all of us, your friends, not him."
I was shocked to hear this slightly profane, but very accurate comment. What came next was amazing. 4 of my boys walked over, picked this girls and her desk, walked her outside the class, took my keys, and locked her out until she was ready to learn. What a way to take agency over their education. Once they allowed her back in, she was with the program.
Sometimes good advice is better received from peers. Didn't need a referral or an admin, the students had it under control even when I didn't.
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